How often do we know when to walk away? In the midst of anger do we stop to think about what we are saying? For most people the answer is no.
Establishing healthy relationships boundaries could be the key to a lasting union. Boundaries are established by understanding what is yours and what is not. The best example I can give is thinking of your personal boundaries as a fenced yard. Everything inside the fence is yours. Everything outside the fence is not.
Once you’ve established your own boundaries it’ll be easy to understand and not cross the boundaries of your partner.
Below I will give 5 examples of implementing boundaries in a relationship.
Listening to your partner is the easiest way to find out where you may be going wrong. Generally most people will tell you exactly what your doing that they dislike. By considering their complaints you can establish a safe boundary not to cross in the future.
- Choose your words
When expressing how you feel, be conscious of what your saying. It’s very easy to belittle or insult someone when discussing things we are frustrated about.
- Ask Questions
Nothing is wrong with seeking clarification, if you don’t understand something say so. Be specific and be sincere. This also lets your partner know you care and are willing to make adjustments.
- Be Honest
Don’t be afraid to tell your partner how feel. To often we expect them to be mind readers when in reality they have no clue what you want or how you feel unless you say something. Granted these types of conversations are uncomfortable but they are necessary
- Know when to walk away
Don’t say something you can’t take back. Sticks and stones may break my bones can break my bones but words will never hurt me is the farthest thing from truth. Words hurt, and we know what to say and how to say it to push that button. People don’t forget the hurt you caused. So why go there?
Respect yourself and respect your partner by knowing how to walk away. When to stop, pause and, regroup. We are human and will make mistakes. But inspiring to be better is what determines who we truly are.